tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post2977513419554726333..comments2024-01-31T20:47:28.121-08:00Comments on The Playroom: The heart is not a pie.Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger36125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-75474981549179031302012-09-16T15:08:15.633-07:002012-09-16T15:08:15.633-07:00Tymber, thank you for sharing. I'm a young sin...Tymber, thank you for sharing. I'm a young single girl coming to terms with my sexual preferences being more "exciting" than the norm... Reading about your experiences is encouraging. I was involved as a third party to a happily married couple and it was amazing... I want to find my own man that is open to this. My troubles lay in the fact that there are a lot of guys that want to play... But not for long term. Or they are afraid of the lifestyle. I'm at a loss for how to meet people that are into this, without finding the creeps that don't really "get it". Do you know what I mean? <br />How do I find like-minded people? I'm in Ontario, and just starting out... <br />Even just reading posts on this site is helpful. I see that there are people out there that are open to talking. AnneJolie Jiujitsuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13905493678208790615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-4347583151267612722012-08-08T20:46:50.984-07:002012-08-08T20:46:50.984-07:00Teresa, thank you, but do NOT let your weight hold...Teresa, thank you, but do NOT let your weight hold you back! Believe me, I'm no skinny-mini, and plenty of my friends are BBW (Big Beautiful Women). Do NOT be ashamed of your weight! Curves are beautiful. ((HUGS))Tymber Daltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11580702194703813388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-11733027090809806922012-08-07T19:46:09.633-07:002012-08-07T19:46:09.633-07:00Thanks Tymber - that make so much more sense now a...Thanks Tymber - that make so much more sense now and it sounds like you have the right partner for accomplishing this. Do you think you might work the "Fibro" angle into a BDSM book sometime? - Miss MysteryAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-49883863397719368452012-08-07T13:03:28.298-07:002012-08-07T13:03:28.298-07:00Thanks Tymber for the wonderful insight on your re...Thanks Tymber for the wonderful insight on your relationship with hubby and Sir..<br />I think you are one amazing woman and I am so proud of you and how you view life.<br />And your an awesome,awesome writer!! If I wasn't so ashamed of my weight, I would like to check out BDSM MORE.<br />I am working on it, but it is so slow in happening.<br />~Teresa~Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12005473815949922647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-7383694577548495322012-08-07T09:18:24.963-07:002012-08-07T09:18:24.963-07:00@Vanessa - Thank you. :) Yes, a good flogging from...@Vanessa - Thank you. :) Yes, a good flogging from a mop flogger really does feel like a thuddy massage. There's absolutely no pain in it at all.Tymber Daltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11580702194703813388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-55410782761410175982012-08-07T09:17:21.723-07:002012-08-07T09:17:21.723-07:00@Corie - Thanks. :) That's one of the reasons ...@Corie - Thanks. :) That's one of the reasons I started writing BDSM, because I wanted to write true-to-life (as much as I could).Tymber Daltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11580702194703813388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-65268648378492837492012-08-07T09:16:32.354-07:002012-08-07T09:16:32.354-07:00@Maria - You're welcome. :)@Maria - You're welcome. :)Tymber Daltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11580702194703813388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-28841334981828167092012-08-07T09:05:17.772-07:002012-08-07T09:05:17.772-07:00Hi Tymber,
As others have commented Thankyou for ...Hi Tymber, <br />As others have commented Thankyou for your willingness to share the details of how your relationship works. Likewise I would never ask as really it is not my business and I admire you for sharing. Your integrity shines through and I admire that and I love to see when folk are willing to show that integrity in their relationships. <br />Your comment re the fibro pain is interesting as someone newly diagnosed and how I just love a back massage and a 'thud' massage is just heavenly for me so I may need to think about that somemore. <br />from VanessaVanessanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-3177185671020803912012-08-07T06:24:24.424-07:002012-08-07T06:24:24.424-07:00Tymber, as always you said it wonderfully! Sir an...Tymber, as always you said it wonderfully! Sir and I like to play with others often. Other times we like to play just us. I love that when I read what you write I know while, yes the story is fictional, the aspects you write about are fact. You are an amazing woman with amazing men in your life! Thank you for sharing and helping others to understand.<br />HUGZ to you!<br />CorieEirocawakeninghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01546689122730959544noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-15531006002969645482012-08-07T02:40:04.027-07:002012-08-07T02:40:04.027-07:00Thanks Tymber,
You bring hope to some of us! :)
M...Thanks Tymber,<br /><br />You bring hope to some of us! :)<br />MariaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-16830793858088914582012-08-06T22:02:00.043-07:002012-08-06T22:02:00.043-07:00@Eva's Flowers - It absolutely can and does wo...@Eva's Flowers - It absolutely can and does work for us and for many others out there. Yes, there are train wrecks, as there are in vanilla relationships. But when you consider how many "monogamous" people cheat on each other... Well, I'll take what we have any day. :) What we have isn't for everyone, and I'm in no way knocking monogamy (because for years, I thought that WAS the "perfect" situation for us). And what we have didn't develop overnight, either. Sir and I played together for at least six months, with me topping Him, before I decided I wanted to explore my submissive side. And even then, it was a slow progression into what we have now. We didn't just wake up one day deciding to be poly. LOL :)Tymber Daltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11580702194703813388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-69275162338433131462012-08-06T21:59:30.179-07:002012-08-06T21:59:30.179-07:00@Carol - Thank you. :) I consider myself blessed b...@Carol - Thank you. :) I consider myself blessed by the Universe, that's for sure.Tymber Daltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11580702194703813388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-28230890264605839012012-08-06T21:59:02.269-07:002012-08-06T21:59:02.269-07:00@Anon - From what I can tell, yes, that's exac...@Anon - From what I can tell, yes, that's exactly it, although I'm not a doctor. But as best we (kinky fibro suffers) can tell, it's related to the endorphins.Tymber Daltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11580702194703813388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-38684645958823951202012-08-06T21:58:24.110-07:002012-08-06T21:58:24.110-07:00@Jan - Aww, thank you! ((HUGS)) And sorry about yo...@Jan - Aww, thank you! ((HUGS)) And sorry about your loss.Tymber Daltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11580702194703813388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-29095240199617232132012-08-06T21:57:56.790-07:002012-08-06T21:57:56.790-07:00@Carin - Everyone is different. Some want a heavie...@Carin - Everyone is different. Some want a heavier impact play session, some a lighter one. You'd have to start gentle and find what works for you. In all seriousness, a nice mop flogger, of soft suede or leather, feels like a massage and isn't painful in the least. (Unless you get hit in the eye or it catches a piercing. LOL)Tymber Daltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11580702194703813388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-60136934089831081402012-08-06T21:56:41.268-07:002012-08-06T21:56:41.268-07:00@robin - Thank you for reading! :)@robin - Thank you for reading! :)Tymber Daltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11580702194703813388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-36152761241502791522012-08-06T21:56:25.339-07:002012-08-06T21:56:25.339-07:00@Lise - Thanks. :) That's one reason why I lov...@Lise - Thanks. :) That's one reason why I love to write about BDSM, because I try to approach it from a realistic standpoint. The basic tenet of BDSM is trust, and unless people understand that, it's hard for them to wrap their minds around the dynamics. The submissive (in a consensual, non-abusive relationship) truly holds the reins. It's their limits the Dom respects and sticks to (although in some cases, yes, there is gentle testing of boundaries sometimes). Never be ashamed to explore your sexuality. If it's all consensual, and if you're having fun, then it's all good. :)Tymber Daltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11580702194703813388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-43409473341484583642012-08-06T21:54:21.846-07:002012-08-06T21:54:21.846-07:00@Dani - Never be afraid to politely ask questions....@Dani - Never be afraid to politely ask questions. Many people are willing to talk about their situations, but are afraid to for fear of ridicule (or worse).Tymber Daltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11580702194703813388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-14218958861394288852012-08-06T21:53:17.145-07:002012-08-06T21:53:17.145-07:00@Miss Mystery - Everyone with Fibro is different. ...@Miss Mystery - Everyone with Fibro is different. For me, impact play and things like fire cupping really help with my fibro pain. Directly, through flogging and fire cupping, and indirectly through other impact play through endorphin release as a result of deep subspace. (Sir can drop me into subspace just by talking to me.) It's not for everyone, but I know quite a few people with chronic pain who love getting a flogging with something like a nice suede mop flogger. Sort of like a really good massage. (Not all flogging is painful. LOL)Tymber Daltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11580702194703813388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-19457954401213198492012-08-06T21:51:29.247-07:002012-08-06T21:51:29.247-07:00@Lee - Thank you. :) The reason I've decided t...@Lee - Thank you. :) The reason I've decided to speak out is that I think it's important, with some factions out there wanting to limit who can and can't marry, and people who'd like everyone to fit into nice, neat little definitions of "traditional marriage," to get other stories out there. I'm lucky enough that I don't have to hide who I am, but there are plenty of people out there living, literally, in fear of what could happen to their jobs or what not if others found out they're in non-traditional relationships. The more we speak out and stand up, the more people will realize how "normal" it truly is.Tymber Daltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11580702194703813388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-47729087400747491922012-08-06T21:49:10.052-07:002012-08-06T21:49:10.052-07:00@KcLu - You definitely need to not "settle&qu...@KcLu - You definitely need to not "settle" for someone. There is someone out there for everyone, you just have to look for them and stay true to yourself.Tymber Daltonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11580702194703813388noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-30128406173228265312012-08-06T21:26:37.643-07:002012-08-06T21:26:37.643-07:00Thanks for sharing that part of your life. I'...Thanks for sharing that part of your life. I'm a big fan and love your stories and have often wondered, how that would translate to real life, does it and could it work? And you have certainly answered that question, if you work hard at it via communication (the most important part of it), yes it can!Eva's Flowershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07336001176271662636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-41109543303370725132012-08-06T16:03:03.712-07:002012-08-06T16:03:03.712-07:00Thank you for sharing with us something so intimat...Thank you for sharing with us something so intimate and private that means a lot to you. I am in awe that you would share your intimate life with us who you don't know. I wish you many more years of happiness and health. May you continue to grow and be extremely happy.Carolnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-45921293205235857712012-08-06T15:44:56.679-07:002012-08-06T15:44:56.679-07:00re: the fibromyalgia pain -- I'm not into BDSM...re: the fibromyalgia pain -- I'm not into BDSM, but I would guess that beatings help with the fibromyalgia pain through a massive release of endorphins....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-58342298150882848892012-08-06T15:40:16.856-07:002012-08-06T15:40:16.856-07:00Great post, Tymber. I lived in a similar situation...Great post, Tymber. I lived in a similar situation with my hubby before he passed away. I have poly friends in the lifestyle as well and I was/am always being asked by people to explain how it works. You explained it perfectly. All questions on this topic will be directed to this post from now on :)Jan Grahamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05729732401790608016noreply@blogger.com