tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post6343993198726900551..comments2024-01-31T20:47:28.121-08:00Comments on The Playroom: Kink Saved Our MarriageUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-5446339390444765092011-10-22T20:49:17.597-07:002011-10-22T20:49:17.597-07:00I'm finally back from Holiday and now I have a...I'm finally back from Holiday and now I have a chance to read this post. I like it! I echo many of the sentiments already posted. I wonder if perhaps prior to marriage, there is a mandatory "sex" class and how to people communicate. I find it depressing that so many marriages start out sizzling hot and due to communication, it goes out in a fizz. <br /><br />I'm glad the two of you could turn it around.La Crimson Femmehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18267705622599900796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-76301589531127740552011-10-10T05:48:01.105-07:002011-10-10T05:48:01.105-07:00So very, very sweet. :) You both are so brave! I c...So very, very sweet. :) You both are so brave! I can't imagine the panic that you must have felt when you began to open up after all that time, but you pushed through it and came out happier and stronger because of it. I hope that someone out there who reads this and is in a similar situation uses you guys as an example of how honesty with yourself and each other is the best policy. <br /><br />AnnAnn Mayburnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00287169064782688829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-69163014421742072672011-10-10T02:11:42.852-07:002011-10-10T02:11:42.852-07:00Dear God, I love you both so much for sharing, i&#...Dear God, I love you both so much for sharing, i'm having a little cry here cause well i'm just so happy your together and everything is finally good and where you want to be in your lives.....i'm so very happy for you both....love ya joanne:)joannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17770909735198287230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-15003196111945411552011-10-09T14:47:05.853-07:002011-10-09T14:47:05.853-07:00Thanks for all the great comments :D
I just want t...Thanks for all the great comments :D<br />I just want to say for anyone that has trouble telling their partner what they want you should try writing it all in an email, text or letter and giving it to them at a time when you can both sit down and talk about it afterwards.Master_Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16262030656293681328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-67045788955018640302011-10-09T11:12:22.052-07:002011-10-09T11:12:22.052-07:00I think we all owe Cherise more than the 6.99 that...I think we all owe Cherise more than the 6.99 that her books cost to be honest. I thought I was the only one that found her books opened up the dialogue for me and my husband to explore something that I needed to bad. And it saddens me so much to realize that people still think BDSM is sick and abusive. I think it is all the crazy devices and costumes lol. <br /><br />I love hearing other people's stories and that they could find connection and love again in BDSM. I thought it wouldn't work with my husband at first. I thought we would fail if he didn't step up and push me like I knew was buried down deep inside him. <br /><br />My husband and I are very much along these same lines. You can't live a 24/7 lifestyle with children. I had one Dom that tried to talk me into it before my husband and pretty much I just didn't want to be a slave. Kitten to the core, but I just don't like as Kitty said that stifling and totally controlled feeling. I know if I pick an argument once the kid is in bed, I'm SOOOOO in trouble LMAO! <br /><br />It made me just worship the man, but he also worships me and I never thought that possible. I was resigned to the typical sex life I have my friends tell me about and saw my parents have. Very little touching, and taboo to talk about it. I'm so glad that we all have a place where we can talk about it and share with each other everything that we go through. The journey.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-63990025344000135462011-10-09T07:20:52.413-07:002011-10-09T07:20:52.413-07:00It's so amazing to me how many people have sim...It's so amazing to me how many people have similar stories. And it's so surprising (though it probably shouldn't be) how important sex is to a marriage. My husband and I didn't have sex more than a handful of times in 4 years! And when we did, it was a disaster. I'd end up crying, he'd end up frustrated. Every year on our anniversary we'd have so much pressure to be intimate it only added to the stress and the horrible outcome. We weren't close to divorce but things were definitely tense. This was before kids even. Like you, we just spent the evenings doing our own thing, on different sides of the house even.<br /><br />Now, we have 2 young kids, 2 careers, a house we're remodeling, and more stress than ever, but that little bit of quality intimacy we have just the two of us in the bedroom (metaphorically since it's not always in the bedroom. Lol!), makes all the difference in the world. It's just the connection I guess. And the loss of inhibitions. The letting go. Especially for me who needs control to be taken away for a while. It calms me, helps me settled down for some reason. I'm sure there's something psychological to it but I don't know what it is. Lol! <br /><br />I can't believe how much it changes our relationship outside of the bedroom too. We're more patient with each other. We snap at each other less. Even though I'm not submissive outside of the bedroom, I find I'm generally more respectful and kinder to him. He's more loving and affection toward me. I hope this blog can find other great stories of success like this one. I'd love to read more about it.<br /><br />Naya (again)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-21633660637212147462011-10-09T07:08:17.526-07:002011-10-09T07:08:17.526-07:00Fantastic post and brilliant to hear from both sid...Fantastic post and brilliant to hear from both sides... <br /><br />The first time my second husband and I came together as lovers...we spent that first night, predominantly...with verbal diarrhea. <br />It was like neither one of us held back from what our needs and expectations were. No longer could we be content to live and share a life with a significant other, and not be completely honest about who we were and what we needed. What we wanted to try sexually, what excited, what didn't....<br />It was all so incredibly exciting. Revealing, thrilling to know and see and especially to fulfill...<br />And the best part is that it still is, twelve years later...<br /><br />It is such a shame that most couples hide so much of who they really are, what it is they'd not only like to experience, but have a need for...<br /><br />We give so much of ourselves everyday to others, and yet the one person who deserves the most, quite often doesn't know you at all... Been there, done that....much happier now ;)<br /><br />Thank you Dee and Kitty for sharing..Pearlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10855572206553790935noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-4226686855081897622011-10-09T07:03:10.772-07:002011-10-09T07:03:10.772-07:00My husband and I found ourselves in a similar situ...My husband and I found ourselves in a similar situation. Just a month from our divorce being final, I found a web page he left open when I was dropping off my son for his weekend visit with daddy. Two hours later my son was at grandma's and I was at Sir's feet. Six years later we are still married and going strong. Great post!!! Thank you Master Dee and Kitty for sharing. I hope your message may help another couple truly meant to be together but can't find the right way to say it.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04942135353282027689noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-848679477481492422011-10-09T06:43:23.240-07:002011-10-09T06:43:23.240-07:00Great story and so glad you all talked. Cherise...Great story and so glad you all talked. Cherise's books were great for opening dialogue and showing "real" people in the lifestyle. My hubby is no not into "hurting me," but he has asked to read some of the scenes I write to see if there are any he could try. (I think my marathon sensation play scene will be where to start--although, unlike Angelina, I WANT to have restraints.) <br /><br />Communication and negotiation are the key. I'll be posting an excerpt here Wednesday of a negotiation scene. So, that fascinated me in your blog, as well. We're in sync! <br /><br />KallyKallypso Mastershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15006389527038649254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-38640250660324977822011-10-09T06:12:21.224-07:002011-10-09T06:12:21.224-07:00lol, I like the too much frustration bit Kitty :Plol, I like the too much frustration bit Kitty :PMaster_Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16262030656293681328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-72657547419468367422011-10-09T06:10:51.710-07:002011-10-09T06:10:51.710-07:00Yes I so know what you mean Naya. Reading it in bo...Yes I so know what you mean Naya. Reading it in books is so different from living it in real. People forget that books leave out the mundane ins and outs of life. It sounds wonderful to be in a full blown BDSM relationship, but you need to factor in the reality of family, work and the odd night you just don't feel like doing play.<br /><br />A good relationship allows those factors in and you find you can work around them easily without too much frustration. :)Kitty Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08389037210052521223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-82935402363925786912011-10-09T06:04:26.041-07:002011-10-09T06:04:26.041-07:00Glad you enjoyed it Naya <3Glad you enjoyed it Naya <3Master_Deehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16262030656293681328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-82443569038039872452011-10-09T05:22:05.219-07:002011-10-09T05:22:05.219-07:00Awesome and inspirational! Isn't it so amazing...Awesome and inspirational! Isn't it so amazing the preconceived notions we go into sex with? It's so sad that something as beautiful and pleasurable as sex is often the subject of shame and guilt. I think society rules and expectations suppress a lot of healthy practices that can bring joy to a marriage, like you found out. I've found so much freedom in being open and honest about my fantasies with my husband. It took a long time to get the guts to communicate them, but my husband was on board pretty much right away. I think the most important thing is to reserve judgement no matter how much something might make you cringe. It creates trust and open communication. You can always find a compromise that suits both partners.<br /><br />I think it's important to point out like you've done, it doesn't always work out like it does in books. Sometimes you fight about boundaries, sometimes a child might wake up and the mood is ruined, or one person isn't feeling it. It isn't always perfect and that's okay. Real life isn't.<br /><br />Thanks so much for sharing!<br /><br />NayaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com