tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post6816241767895695435..comments2024-01-31T20:47:28.121-08:00Comments on The Playroom: Brats, BDSM and BooksUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-43685525831845907242012-12-03T18:54:36.554-08:002012-12-03T18:54:36.554-08:00Excellent post! If you want to criticize a book be...Excellent post! If you want to criticize a book because something is not possible for a human being to withstand that is one thing. A la 'That story was ridiculous. The Dom gave her 8,356 lashes with a cat 'o nine..." Ok, I'm cool with that.<br /><br />But ripping a book simply because it doesn't live by your definition of how "real" BDSM works should be a spankable offense. With... oh I don't know... a cat 'o nine or something.Jessiehttp://www.jessisverona.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-84329472267748206072012-12-02T22:28:18.542-08:002012-12-02T22:28:18.542-08:00I LOVE this post. I was just experiencing my own ...I LOVE this post. I was just experiencing my own aggravation issues a few minutes ago based on this same type of situation. One of the best things, in my opinion, about being a part of the BDSM lifestyle is the lack of rules and guidelines and regulations. It has gotten so common, however, for people who SHOULD understand the right to make these choices (because they are a member of the lifestyle, too) to come down on someone who does not play by the rules they have set for themselves! Thanks for posting this!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14217320603111824362noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-47155763834977877192012-11-29T01:53:53.438-08:002012-11-29T01:53:53.438-08:00Why would anyone do this if they weren't havin...Why would anyone do this if they weren't having fun? Isn't there enough serious stuff in life, with making a living, taking care of family, paying bills, being responsible? If they're not having fun in their relationships, maybe it's time to look at a different sort of life. A monastery, or professional bungee-jumping, or under-water basket weaving. Pogoniphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02475684665191147691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-77382408017198996212012-11-28T10:30:56.155-08:002012-11-28T10:30:56.155-08:00Lovely post, Cari! I've learned so much over t...Lovely post, Cari! I've learned so much over the years reading about ALL the different kinds of D/s relationships, and there are SO many!<br /><br />Just as each human being is unique, so must be any D/s couple (triad, etc) :) Not much makes me go "sweeeesh" or "ughhhh", and since I have no RL knowledge, I keep a very open mind about what is written.<br /><br />I am humbled by the number of authors who have (openly) revealed their BDSM lives to us fans: it just makes me more impressed to realise their writings are so much nearer the 'truth' than we could ever imagine.<br /><br />So, thank you, BDSM lifestylers who bring realism to your novels. Thank you for some simply wonderful stories :)<br /><br />Hugs<br />Carole-AnnAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-5755011173910804572012-11-27T16:15:40.407-08:002012-11-27T16:15:40.407-08:00Thanks for the great post! I am known to be bratty...Thanks for the great post! I am known to be bratty, but my Sir loves it. It is nice to see I am not the only one. Having fun is definitely vital in our relationship. Great lion analogy! <br />Mel<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11122898305851959794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-72819142166268888742012-11-27T15:27:26.122-08:002012-11-27T15:27:26.122-08:00Fabulous post Cari. I really enjoyed your point of...Fabulous post Cari. I really enjoyed your point of view. And, a sense of humor is a MUST! Hugs,<br />Krystal ShannanKrystal Shannanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05478131510301467364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-39008055284673220362012-11-26T21:54:10.081-08:002012-11-26T21:54:10.081-08:00Great post. I have no real experience with BDSM bu...Great post. I have no real experience with BDSM but I personally love a variety of different characters, including brats. And I love a sense of humor so if I were to ever have a Dom, it would have to be one who was not serious all the time. Btw, I am like you and not into the humiliation/shame aspect. But to each his/her own :)June M.https://www.blogger.com/profile/14929817630779731177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-47306717253595747112012-11-26T17:54:04.918-08:002012-11-26T17:54:04.918-08:00LOL Benjamin.
I agree. In a real relationship you ...LOL Benjamin.<br />I agree. In a real relationship you are never going to always agree with your Dom, which can make for fun as long as things are kept respectful. <br />Cari Silverwoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00950284353140027038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-80916916720267276472012-11-26T17:00:48.759-08:002012-11-26T17:00:48.759-08:00*Smiles* A bratty submissive is almost a given. I ...*Smiles* A bratty submissive is almost a given. I can't imagine a submissive who wasn't a little bratty. To my way of thinking, it's not if she's going to be bratty or willful, it's just to what degree. I'm not talking about a slave, but rather a submissive who in her everyday life is generally in charge and in control. A woman like that, who chooses to entered into a D/s relationship because of the security and comfort it gives her to relinquish control to her Dom/Domme, she can't help being bratty. <br /><br />I think the Lion analogy is a good one. Most Doms/Dommes enjoy and expect a certain amount of brat behavior, but the sub would be wise to pay attention to the signs when the Dom/Domme has had enough. <br /><br />The people who criticize brats in a book obviously never read 50 Shades. Ms. Anna was a real brat. <br /><br />Benjamin T. Russellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12804675835177034017noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-54525383679345249612012-11-26T16:21:07.243-08:002012-11-26T16:21:07.243-08:00Just imagine a world where the only flavor of ice ...Just imagine a world where the only flavor of ice cream was vanilla, just because you don't like chocolate, doesn't make it wrong. Mmmm, chocolate.Daphniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04899639580541987121noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-38237371940615825842012-11-26T12:57:55.732-08:002012-11-26T12:57:55.732-08:00I've been startled by the negative reactions t...I've been startled by the negative reactions to certain BDSM books. For folks who don't want their own life choices judged, some of them can be awfully judgey!Nona Raineshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14293846097701174496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-429156142967093682.post-87934668711728377732012-11-26T12:38:32.353-08:002012-11-26T12:38:32.353-08:00Well said. There are many types/styles/flavors of ...Well said. There are many types/styles/flavors of BDSM and if something isn't your kink, that's fine, but that doesn't make it "not BDSM" or "wrong".Cassandra Carrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11261191490396335404noreply@blogger.com