Monday, January 23, 2012


A short one from me today. It's been a rough couple of months around our household, for all of us. In November, a dear friend of ours, and someone who was a mentor for me, as well as a Dominant and play partner to Sir, was diagnosed with brain cancer. We spent the next two months helpless, watching her slip away from us more every day until she mercifully gave in on New Year's morning.

I'm still processing my grief and emotions from all of it. It was a valuable reminder, however, to tell the people you love how much they mean to you, now, because you never know what will happen later. It was a reminder to me that life is short and precious, and that sometimes we need to make hard decisions to let go of situations that are negative and focus only on the positive, the people and activities that give us joy, rather than trying to change the negative and the energy-suckers. Follow your heart and your dreams. Give thanks every day to the Universe for the positives in your life and focus on them and not the negatives.

Sometimes hard to implement, but I'm trying my best.

(Tymber Dalton is an award-winning, bestselling author of books such as "The Reluctant Dom" and others. Her website is


  1. It's even harder when it's family that needs to be culled from the herd. Thanks for the advise. Love your advise. Sending hugs your way.

  2. I am so sorry for your loss.. Your advice is outstanding and something I will try to live by...