Wednesday, July 18, 2012

BDSM- it doesn't have to be serious all the time


Welcome to another day in the BDSM Authors Playroom Blog Hop! I hope you're having as much fun as we are! Today I'm here to talk about a subject that doesn't seem to get much play (heh) in the BDSM community--even though we ALWAYS recommend your play is safe, sane, and consensual, that doesn't mean it always has to be serious. You can have fun with BDSM.

What do I mean? Well, let's think about this...

One thing I want to make clear before I start. I am not making fun of anyone else's choices. What gets you revved up is your business and nobody else's.

With that out of the way...let's start with puppy and pony play. There are many people who take this very seriously, and some who use it for punishment, but many lifestylers do it because a person dressed up like a puppy or a pony is kinda cute and fun.

Then there are the "fun" spankings and other "reward" things. There are impression paddles that say "ouch" and panties that say "spank me". How about the feather ticklers Doms can use to torture ticklish subs? Or the Wartenburg wheel? You can also make a chocolate impression of a penis with a handy kit.

The point is...yes, BDSM should be taken seriously to make sure all parties are safe. But that doesn't mean you can't have a little--or a lot--of fun!

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To further illustrate this point, here's a short excerpt from my holiday BDSM novella, Caught. Yes, as you can see below, you CAN marry the themes of the holidays and BDSM!

Sir came back into the room carrying a big pile of stuff and set it all down on the edge of the bed. Callie started to look down, but Sir said, “Uh-uh, eyes up.” Dutifully she raised her gaze until she was staring at the ceiling. Her arms were still above her head, and she heard him chuckle. “My perfect little submissive, already in position to be restrained.” Glancing at the headboard, she frowned. The leather wasn’t exactly conducive to bondage. “Don’t you worry, pet. I’ve got a plan.”

He began to unravel something from a package, but Callie couldn’t tell what it was, though it sounded kind of crinkly. He came to the head of the bed, and she saw he was holding a long length of gold garland. “Hands.” Eyebrow raised, she offered him her hands, and he tied them together. Sir went into the attached bath and came back with a towel, which he placed underneath her. Her eyebrow rose again, but Sir just gave her an enigmatic smile and left the room.

“Now where did he go?” she muttered.

Callie jumped when Sir answered. “Forgot something in the playroom.” He grinned down at her. “Didn’t hear me coming, did you?” He held up a contraption. “Spread those lovely thighs for me, baby.” She did, and he attached a leather cuff at about midthigh. A small spreader bar stretched between them. He ran the garland through the D bolts on each cuff, which basically formed a triangle of garland going from her hands to her legs. “Hmmm, that’s going to be too much pressure on your poor wrists,” he murmured. “Aha! An idea…” Sir left the room again, and Callie shook her head in amusement. She’d never seen this side of him—he was like a kid in a candy store.


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24 comments:

  1. I have not read Caught yet. What a fun excerpt! I wonder what he's up to!

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  2. Pony & puppy aren't my thing but whatever floats your boat. I really enjoy reading BDSM. lol

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  3. That was fun! Haven't read Caught yet, but I'm thinking it is going on my TBR list! I have never tried pony and puppy play but I could see how that could be really fun. I like the idea of making chocolate penises. Bwah ha ha. What a surprise that would be for a holiday gift with a delightfully delicious novel included. :)

    Great article! I should be writing, but I always end up here to see what you ladies are up to. :) Love it!

    Best,

    Erzabet

    erzabetwrites (at) gmail dot com

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  4. Thanks ladies! I hope you enjoy Caught! It won Best BDSM Book 2011 from LoveRomancesCafe. ;-)

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  5. Very fun excerpt. Have added Caught to my tbr wishlist.
    What a wonderful use of garland...hm, will have to mention to hubby. lol
    Patricia
    panthers.ravens@yahoo dot com

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  6. I'm fairly new to this genre of stories and LOVE them! What a fun excerpt!!!

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  7. I enjoyed the excerpt... Sounds like a fun read. Christina_92 at yahoo.com

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  8. Thanks you guys! I appreciate it and I hope you like Caught.

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  10. Well, that excerpt has caught my attention.

    Thanks,
    Tracey D
    booklover0226 at gmail dot com

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  11. If your not having fun and enjoying what you do why do it. Great post! Mawmom(@)gmail(dot)com

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  12. Oh that does sound like fun. I need to read this book.

    proudarmymom32(at)yahoo(dot)com

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  13. Glad to hear about the fun side, thanks!

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  14. Thanks all! I hope you enjoy Caught! I wrote Jack as my ideal Dom. He's sort of dumb in the beginning (aren't they all, lol?) but he redeems himself at the end.

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  15. I love seeing the lighter side every once in awhile. It shows that they are well rounded and there is more than meets the eye.

    Gabrielle
    meingee@yahoo.com

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  16. I have Caught , not a chance to read it. The excerpt has pusshed the book up to the top. It sounds like a fun read. All your stories are great reads, Cassandra.

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  17. I haven't read this one yet. I really need to get it. I like the lighter side of play. Just adds more to it.
    Mel
    bournmelissa at hotmail dot com

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  18. Oh my, that did sound like a lot of fun. Sir was having a good time and it showed in the excerpt. Looks like I need to check Caught out.
    luvfuzzzeeefaces at yahoo dot com

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  19. It is so nice to see someone sharing the "lighter side" of BDSM... so many people are put off by the seriousness of it all, and it CAN be very serious... but my hubby and I are sometimes serious with it, and sometimes playful... it's good to change it up a bit.

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  20. Great excerpt...added to my tbr!
    andieleah78@gmail.com

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  21. I think it would be important to have fun from time to time. Life is often too serious so it is important to laugh and enjoy it whenever possible. :) Never would have thought to use garland for restraining though, lol
    manning_j2004 at yahoo dot com

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  22. I agree with you. Sex in general isn't always a serious, intense thing. It can be fun and different. While you do need to be careful and serious with BDSM, you can make it fun. Thanks for the excerpt!

    tiger-chick-1(at)hotmail(dot)com

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  23. Ah yes, Doms can be very playful. I wonder if he is trussing her up like a tree or Christmas decoration.

    Cindersmaria AT gmail DOT com

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