by Cari Silverwood
Well, there you have it – writing AND Doms. Which means fiction. So now you have to decide if you want to appeal to your readers or not…you do? Right. That makes it easier. Doms are just men, of course. Which means IRL they can have just as many daft ideas as any man, or woman. They aren’t perfect, they do lie, they get gas, had acne when they were teenagers, and I’ll bet half of them have left a trail of unhappy women behind them.
Well, there you have it – writing AND Doms. Which means fiction. So now you have to decide if you want to appeal to your readers or not…you do? Right. That makes it easier. Doms are just men, of course. Which means IRL they can have just as many daft ideas as any man, or woman. They aren’t perfect, they do lie, they get gas, had acne when they were teenagers, and I’ll bet half of them have left a trail of unhappy women behind them.
But, but buuut, I hear some of you wail, that’s not like my
hero Dom. For sure, but fiction is fiction.
Does that mean there are no wonderful men out there in real life who
make wonderful Doms? Heck, of course there are. But they still have flaws. They
are at their core, simply men who like being in control, sometimes that’s
mostly in the bedroom, sometimes not.
But what do you put in your book? You, the author, gets to
decide that. When you make any character in a story, you get to throw into the
mix what you think you need. When writing a Dom, you just have to make sure
they can still be the ideal partner for your heroine if they are the ‘hero’. We
need to learn to love our partners, flaws and all. In fact in a story, it can
make for so much more tension if you have those flaws to work around and perhaps
even cause that black moment.
So what is it that distinguishes a Dom from another alpha male
then? Not a lot, in my opinion. Like a lot of human ‘things’ or labels there is
a sliding scale. Given sufficient permission by their women, a lot of alpha men
would slip into Dom mode.
Certain ingredients will give you a bonafide Dom for your
story. A need for control, a positive reveling in the sight of a submissive
kneeling and doing as they are told. They will listen to your desires, your
needs, the things that turn you on, and then they’ll take those wants of yours
and crank up the tension. Safewords are for when the Dom goes just that little
too far. But most of the time the submissive revels in obeying because it’s all
part of the power exchange.
If you give an average alpha man instructions on what you
want to happen beforehand, they may do these things to turn you on. With a Dom,
expect that to go a little beyond, or to take a right angle turn into foreign
territory. A Dom will like to push you. If they’re sadistic, they like to hear
you squeal as well as moan. If they are simply into dominance, they like to see
you not just on your knees, but licking your way up their leg to their cock. They
want you on the bed with your legs spread, waiting.
An alpha will pin you against a wall and kiss you until you’re
breathless. A Dom will step away and tell you to face the wall, clasp your
hands together, put your arms above your head and stay there while they undo
their trousers. Or maybe you’ll get to undo the zip with your teeth.
If you go too far, if your ‘Dom’ does something really
wrong, like ignoring a safeword, or ignoring the feelings of his submissive,
you end up with an asshole bully instead. In real life, maybe they can redeem
themselves, like the Dom who insisted his submissive kneel despite knee surgery
that made it agonizing for her…maybe he redeemed himself. Unlikely though.
So take care how far they go in that story. Make them human
beings above all. They can be sexy controlling bastards who give your heroine a
million orgasms, but always make them human.
Here’s Leonhardt from my novel, Rough Surrender, showing his
Dom side.
The gold cords weighed heavily on her fingers as she went
back into the bathroom. Mr. Meisner sat on the chair like a judge waiting for
his next case...her. What was he planning? She could tell he meant to unsettle
her. Well, no one had ever called her a pushover. She set her jaw.
“Here, Faith.” He held out his hand.
She gave him the cords and saw how he unraveled them while
judging her reaction. It was amazing how quickly her pussy heated. All those
words for her anatomy, and she sure remembered them. Cunt, cunny, cleft,
vagina...dark and dirty, and my, oh, my, she liked this whole thing. Except,
maybe, when he went careering off course, like now.
“Your wrist, love.”
Blinking, sure she teetered on a precipice and this
dad-blasted man intended to give her a right good shove, she gave him her
wrist. He urged her around until she faced away from him then took her other
wrist too. Again, with the tying of her hands at her back, and she closed her
eyes to savor the odd, yet delicious, want in her for handing him control. Her
clitoris swelled, as if it had a mind of its own. She couldn’t help taking a
deep breath at the surge of pleasure, at the scattered tingle as places woke
and longed for more of his touch.
“Good,” he said, and his hand curved over her bottom, appreciating
every inch, or so it seemed. She swayed, and let her tongue tip venture out
onto her lip when his hand went between her legs and stayed there, like it
belonged in just that place, like he had a right to be there. Oh. Yes.
“Wet,” he murmured. “Now you can kneel.”
With a hand on her elbow to steady her, Mr. Meisner helped
her kneel on the towel. Standing over her with his cock an inch away, he
carefully twined her hair round and round and anchored his hand within. So firm
she might have been in a vice, and with her hands behind her he could do what
he wished.
“How does that feel, Faith?” he asked quietly.
She looked up at him and sank into those brown eyes,
floating away with the sensation of being dominated. Her tongue and brain were
miles from each other. Words and thoughts mired, and tangled. A reply would
spoil the moment. She shook her head as much as his grip allowed her to.
“That’s better. Lovely.” He bent down and kissed her long
enough to send everything spinning. When he raised himself again, her lips were
bruised and her heartbeat erratic.
“I’m going to put my cock in your mouth. Use lips, not
teeth. See if you can take it all in, after a while. When I come, you’ll get a
mouthful. So don’t be surprised.”
His hand held her even firmer as the head of his cock found
her mouth. She opened wide then watched as it glided between her lips. She felt
the strange soft, hardness poke along her tongue and then withdraw. A taste
like skin, but deeper, richer.
Shutting her eyes let her feel more. She was pleasuring him
the same as he’d done to her. His flesh pushed in, invaded her mouth, withdrew.
“Use your tongue,” he murmured. At the huskiness in his
voice she risked a glance at his face. Mr. Meisner had a look of utter
concentration. She curled her tongue and swirled all along the length as his
cock cruised past. In, suck, swirl, out... He drew a long, sibilant breath and
sped up the thrusts into her mouth. She twisted her hands in the cord. When she
relaxed her throat, he grunted and his hands tightened in her hair.
Yes, she
could do this.
He pulled out and tilted up her head.
What now? She looked back at him while licking the taste off
her lips. He chuckled, then bent down, picked her up and slung her over his
shoulder. With hands tied behind her and head downward at his back, she could
only wriggle.
“Mr. Meisner! Put me down.” She hissed the words through her
teeth.
“Don’t move!” he smacked her once on the bottom. The sting
shot through her.
“Ow!” But she stilled--landing headfirst on the floor
because he’d dropped her seemed unwise. Besides, that smack had hurt.
Four or five strides and he plonked her onto the bed. More
pillows were sorted, only this time he set her up with her head down and nearly
dangling off the bed.
“I figured we needed you a bit more distracted, my dear.
Open your mouth.”
Damnation, what was it this time? She scowled up at him but
he inserted his cock into her mouth again. Only this time she felt his hand
slipping along her cleft. The way he skated his fingers up and down while he
pushed in and out of her mouth made her forget precisely where her tongue was,
and soon, altogether which bit was anywhere, except she needed to moan and suck
at the same time.
She arched her mound at his mouth or whatever part of him
played wet games down there. He was inside her mouth and her pussy at the same
time. As his cock forced its way in, so did fingers and tongue. She gasped
around him and hummed, tried to spread her legs, clenched and tried to free her
hands from where they lay under her back, and couldn’t. The throbbing heat, the
slip and juicy slide almost undid her. She tensed, bowing upward as much as she
could. With one last thrust, Mr. Meisner stopped with his cock as deep as it
would go.
And here’s a little excerpt from Steel Dominance that is on
the last few days of rewrites before it goes to my publisher.
Her voice trailed off. “Not…not here…” She pushed at his
shoulders only to have him whip his other hand from behind her back, catch both
her wrists and hold them to the wall above her head.
“Yes. Here.” Then he watched her as carefully as a bug
collector observing a strange new butterfly while he wormed his hand between
them and pushed a finger inside her.
Though she’d never seen anyone in this secluded place the
possibility was there, and that both horrified and excited her. How perverted
am I? No one normal would want this. But her breaths came faster and wetness
cascaded from her slit with each in and out slide of his digit. Slowly waves of
need stirred—making her shudder. Knowledge thumped into her—he held her pinned,
helpless, with her legs spread by his.
She tried again to move her hands, but they might have been
cemented there.
It seemed right to protest. “Let me go!”
Dankyo stepped away until her legs slipped from his thighs
and she stood straining on tiptoe with her arms above.
“Let you go? Those words again? You know where we are, now.
How it is.” Dark amusement colored his voice.
He pulled his finger from her and played with her clit, circling it as
if it were a new toy. “Those words don’t work, Sofia. I have your yes. Until
you take that away, you are mine. So I can do this.” He added a finger and thrust
two of them up into her. “Or this.” The third joined them, sliding, finding its
way between her swollen labia, stretching her vagina in an exquisite way.
Her mouth fell open in a gasp.
Without conscious thought, her hips tilted, as if she begged
for more.
But I am begging. I want…
Another thrust went straight in full depth until the knuckle
of his unburied finger touched her lips and his thumb bumped her clit. Then his
hand beneath her shoved her a whole inch up the wall.
“Uh!” She shut her eyes.
She moaned and let herself dangle there, supported by his
hand between her legs, her toenails barely scraping the ground. Him fucking her
while he observed, and while he knew she was a heartbeat from saying no, made
her want this even more.
“That’s…beautiful.” The male baritone depth made her jerk
her eyes open.
His eyes narrowed. A smile grew as he surveyed her from her
face to her breasts and then downward to where his gaze lingered at the split
of her legs where he’d speared inside. More liquid spilled from her over his
hand.
“Move,” she croaked, then panted some more, and did a little
wiggle as she tested the iron grip on her wrists. Her walls clamped down on the
hardness of his fingers.
Dankyo chuckled. “Move?” Then he came closer, covering her
struggling body with his. “Be quiet.” As if to punctuate his command, he
clamped his teeth on her ear lobe. The sting shocked her into stillness. “You
don’t get a say in what I do. Not at all.”
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Thanks a bunch for your post. I love how you note to that Doms are human too. People want the "perfect Dom" and don't realize that he or she doesn't exist. Doms are human. And even if they're not, they're most likely not perfect. If I'm reading a story with a too perfect Dom, it throws me off. I start thinking, this couldn't happen in real life. Because yes, it's fiction. But, when I read I story, I put myself in those roles. I'm the sub or the Dom, I'm the heroine, I'm the shapeshifter. It's a chance to experience something that I wouldn't usually experience. So to have a too perfect Dom would ruin it for me. Of course, that's just my opinion.
ReplyDeleteAnyways, thanks for the hop! I'm super excited about it, as I'm always looking for good BDSM authors and books.
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Great writing! Can't wait to start on the others on the hop.
ReplyDeleteI think it's important to show the Doms as a real person also. They can and do make mistakes!
modularmates(at)comcast(dot)net
I really liked the excerpt from Steel Dominance, Thanks!
ReplyDeleteLove the way you describe Doms. Great excerpts thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteGabrielle
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Great post!! Excellent point about Doms being human as well. Some of our greatest learning experiences come from our mistakes. Doms make mistakes too.
ReplyDeleteMel
bournmelissa at hotmail dot com
Love the way you showed the differences and similarities between an alpha and a Dom. This was a great post! Too may times the hero in a book is almost too perfect and it doesn't seem real enough.
ReplyDeletesuz2(at)cox(dot)net
Awesome post. Just started reading this genre so I learned alot from your post :)
ReplyDeleteDawnSullivan88@verizon.net
Thanks for posting this. As a lifestyler, it's refreshing to see someone who knows what they are talking about.
ReplyDeleteSelectZen
Loved the post and love your books. Doms come in all shapes and sizes (smile)
ReplyDeleteGreat post! It sure opened my eyes and I learned a lot. Thanks!
ReplyDeleteThank you all :)
ReplyDeleteI'm glad this one has been worth reading for you. I tried hard. Mwah!
I love your mentioning that Doms are perfect! Mine sure aren't! I can always tell when the reviewer screaming "BUT A DOM NEVER LIES!" has been reading too many fantasy Dom novels. lol. To me, there's nothing sexier than a man admitting he was wrong, though.
ReplyDeleteGreat, hot excerpt! (Don't enter me in the contest, of course! I'll be blogging on the 19th.)
Kally
kallypsomasters.com
Grrr--my fingers. I mean that Doms are NOT perfect. LOL
DeleteKally
I love it when Doms aren't perfect. What a boring story it would be if they never made mistakes and had to show their human side. Thank you for the great post.
ReplyDeleteproudarmymom32(at)yahoo(dot)com
I like how you differentiate between a Dom with human faults like everyone else and just being an abusive asshole. There is a difference.
ReplyDeleteAutumnJLake@gmail.com
I love that you point out that Doms have issues too! They can be just as quirky as the next man.
ReplyDeleteEflippin11@gmail.com
Great excerpt and great blog hop :)
ReplyDeletepenumbrareads(at)gmail(dot)com
Great excrepts and blog! Kaly is write Doms can be wrong and in a good relationship admit it.
ReplyDeleteI am so glad you wrote this post, I think it's easy to forget that people no matter the role they have in life are still subject to human frailties and that everyone makes mistakes.
ReplyDeleteI loved the excerpts from your books and will be looking forward to "Steel Dominance" to be coming out.
Carin mawmom(at)gmail(dot)com
That was a very informative post. I really wouldn't have thought that a Dom would have flaws. I picture him as always being right, and knowing how to do everything in BDSM. This post was an eye opener somewhat, thanks for sharing today.
ReplyDeleteDo we fill out the form at every author's post? Or just once?
luvfuzzzeeefaces at yahoo dot com
I'm newer to this genre and so intrigued by it, so thank you for the post!
ReplyDeletelfacchini(at)tampabay(dot)rr(dot)com
Julianne, even Doms are beginners at some stage, and yes, they are all human and so have flaws. In fact some of them complain about that and make sure to tell new submissives that fact.
ReplyDeleteAs for entries, I'm not sure. I'm not doing the counting, but it looks like one post is enough. If you have the stamina and time though, read them all :)
Thanks for the excerpts, definitely liking these books so far, another author to add to my list.
ReplyDeleteGlad you noted the difference between fiction Doms and real life. Most people sometimes forget. Thanks for the blurb.
ReplyDeletePatricia
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I love your comparison between Doms and alpha males, Cari! I have a serious thing for alphas and the more take control they are, the better! I have liked the Doms that I have met in stories so far. ;)
ReplyDeleteThose are some very HOT excerpts! Against the wall? Yummy!
Thanks, Cari.
Those excepts are hot!!! Loved them
ReplyDeleteandieleah78@gmail.com
I agree that no one is perfect, everyone is going to have flaws, make some mistakes, etc. It is just my opinion, but I think having someone perfect would be hard to deal with, I know I am not perfect so I would feel insecure if someone else was perfect, lol.
ReplyDeleteGreat excerpts, BTW.
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