Monday, April 8, 2013

Sometimes a man's just gotta take charge

We so often see the extremes in BDSM, and while the super tough Doms can be stimulating and exciting and down right delicious, there is a different type of dominance too often neglected or overlooked in today's romance. That guy so naturally in charge he doesn't need a label to categorize him. He's the man who commands a woman's attention even if he scares her, steals her breath, or makes her want to run. This is the type that I want in my everyday life. The kind who generates shivers the moment he walks into the room. The man who blows my mind with a look or a whispered command. The kind who will back off and let a woman run if she needs to only to be there to catch her if she stumbles. This type of Alpha male used to be incredibly popular in romance, but now seems to have stepped back in favor of the sadist (can be a little much for daily enjoyment) or the Beta (someone please give this hero a backbone).

The Sturgis Rally Riders Series explores the everyday types of dominate heroes/heroines. From the older man who meets a virgin's "daddy" fetish whether she openly admits she has one or not (Runaway Virgin), to the sexy Domme willing to train a newbie sub to the joys found in a bit of pain (Whipped Puppy), to the neglected and protective husband pushed to his limit who convinces his love to face her fears (Public Adoration), and finally the natural dominate strong enough to shove back when a woman pushes all his buttons (Beautiful Ink). When I wrote the series, the intention was to look at the different types of people who come to the Sturgis Motorcycle classic, but all the heroes/heroines seemed to want the boundaries inherent in a Dom/sub relationship.  While many come to the rally to escape the daily grind or tour the gorgeous Black Hills, most check their inhibitions at the edge of town. The series is a testament to the raw sexuality that throbs just beneath the surface.

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Here's what some readers have said about the individual titles.

Runaway Virgin - I happen to enjoy any book that incorporates any use of Dominance and the other party showing obvious submission. It is hot, it is alluring, and without the bondage elements, for me, makes it that much hotter. The fact that you are TOLD what to do, and you must comply with no assistance--yummy to the tenth power.

Whipped PuppyKatalina has made me a believer, and she sort of makes me want a Domme to take a whack at me.

Public AdorationWhat is a man to do to convince his wife he thinks she is sexy?? Well public sex of course. I know it may sound like I'm making fun of this, but this is one of the sexiest scenes I have read. 

Beautiful Ink - I loved the heroine's sassy mouth and the heroes take control attitude. I have to say I read this during lunch at work and needed a soda to cool off but wished I had a bullet on me to slake the itch this read left me with.

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Friday, April 5, 2013

"Real" men don't cause pain? Think again.

I saw a posting on a Facebook page for some asshat wannabe Dom who, among other things, claims that "real men" don't hurt women.


I'm sure that would come as a HUGE shock to all the pain sluts out there. And the sadists.

Yes, the guy did include a caveat about limits, but his overall message was that it shouldn't be about the pain.

Odd, because I have friends for whom it IS all about the pain. They wouldn't bottom if they weren't getting pain. They will bottom to friends with whom they don't have a romantic relationship with BECAUSE they want the pain their sadistic toppy friend can dish out.

Look, just because a guy throws up a Facebook page and claims to be a Dominant doesn't make it true.

No, a "real" Dom does NOT violate a hard limit or a safeword. Absolutely they don't.

But cause pain? Um, yeah. There are countless sadists out there who are involved in BDSM BECAUSE they enjoy inflicting pain.

Here's how you can tell a "real" Dominant in the lifestyle from an asshat poser -- the REAL Dominant, if they have any experience under their belt, will be honest that there are some kinks that are not their kinks, but are still valid kinks.

Being into BDSM for the pain IS a valid kink. Might not be your kink, but it doesn't make it any less valid.

YKINMK - Your Kink Is Not My Kink.

THIS is why I have a HUGE problem with the "won twue way" fucktards who preach to people who have NO clue what BDSM is, and they get these people fawning all over them because it's nothing more than an ego stroke for the Facebook "dominant" handing out bullshit they think their audience wants to hear.

"Real" BDSM is frequently NOT pretty. People LOVE to show off their bruises and marks. There are many submissives (myself included) who LOVE having bruises and marks to show after a session. In fact, I tend to get pissed off at Sir if He doesn't leave at least a few marks on me. If I'm taking the pain (and I'm not a pain slut) then dammit, I want something to remember it by. LOL

So when you see someone spouting information and not acknowledging that there ARE other ways of practicing BDSM, that's a HUGE red flag the person is a poser, fucktard, douche canoe, or other flavor of someone to stay FAR away from.