A Roll of the Dice (Suncoast Society 9) by Tymber Dalton
So what do you do when you're married for 25 years, your child is leaving home for college, and you suddenly find yourself with a very free after-work schedule?
If you're the heroine of my new book, you might find yourself in the position of wanting to spice things up in your otherwise solid and loving marriage.
In A Roll of the Dice, I cover the very common question of "where do we go from here?" many long-term couples find themselves in. Jenny discovers BDSM fiction via her book club. After learning from Shayla, one of the club's other members, that BDSM is really a "thing" people do in real life, Jenny wants to learn more.
Now her husband, Mike, is forced to figure out a new path for himself in an attempt to find a way through this new "thing" that will both make Jenny happy and be something he can live with.
This is actually a very familiar scenario. I can't tell you how many times I've been to munches, where people stood up and introduced themselves and talked about discovering BDSM later in life, having spent years thinking there was something "wrong" with them, or years in a relationship that was totally not fulfilling. Sometimes, their partner makes the journey with them, or attempts to. Sometimes, they end up having to make a clean break and a fresh start, alone, or the relationship dissolves in the process of self-discovery. People change and grow apart. Sometimes, they grow together.
This isn't some impossible billionaire Dom haunting a ritzy private club looking for his next submissive, or some broken and lost woman looking for an anchor in her crazy life. This is the story of two regular, everyday, middle-class, average-Joe people, a husband and wife, who love each other very much and want to stay together and muddle their way through this new "thing" now that their son is off to college.
It releases on 9/12 at Siren-BookStrand, and will be 4-6 weeks before it hits third-party sites. (But you can pre-order it now from Siren-BookStrand.) If you have a Kindle, you can input your device's email address in your BookStrand account and they'll send the file directly to your device upon release. For other devices, you can purchase the appropriate format and manually transfer it to your device. (They have instructions on their site.) I have no control over the release times, that's all handled by the publisher.
[Siren Sensations: Erotic Consensual BDSM Romance, voyeurism, public exhibition, sex toys, HEA]
After twenty-five years of marriage, Jenny wants to try something new with her husband, Mike. Her book club’s been reading BDSM fiction. It’s piqued her curiosity enough to make her want to brave a local munch and try things with her husband.
Mike loves Jenny and would do anything for her. But memories of the abuse his mom suffered haunt him, and he refuses to be “that” man. When Jenny tells Mike she wants them to try BDSM, he attempts to keep an open mind despite his personal issues about it.
While meeting people from the local community, Mike makes an effort to give Jenny what she needs despite his desires warring with his conscience. Once his shock and surprise wear off over who he discovers is involved in the alternative lifestyle, Jenny and Mike start forging a new path. But will that journey lead them apart, or bring them closer together?
A Siren Erotic Romance
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Wednesday, September 3, 2014
Friday, July 25, 2014
BDSM vs Abuse
My friend and fellow writer Tara Rose as a great blog post today, in the wake of the trailer for 50 Shades of Grey hitting the wires, about BDSM vs abuse and how to tell the two apart. Definitely one you want to check out.
Posted by Tymber Dalton at 7:29 AM 6 comments:
Monday, July 14, 2014
Yet another one where I take on radical feminists' views about BDSM.
Oh, look. Someone on the Interwebz is having a butthurt cow about consensual BDSM practices. It's an older article, but one I was only pointed toward just today.
Here's my response to them, because I seriously doubt they'll let my comment stand, because, idunno, LOGIC HURTZ.
Equating the 50 Shades books and porn films to real-life consensual, healthy BDSM practices is the equivalent to saying that pedophillic priests means all Catholics, including parishioners, should be put in jail for child abuse.
Seriously, that's the kind of faulty logic you all are engaging in here.
There are still parts of the world where people are MURDERED for being gay. THAT is a serious cause to go after, not pillorying people who are in healthy BDSM dynamics. And yet you take a tiny, unrealistic subset of a very large population and say THIS IS THE TRUTH ABOUT BDSM, when, in fact, it's not.
Have any of you ever had sex in any way other than the missionary position? Have any of you ever willingly been blindfolded or *gasp* tied up during sex?
If yes, then you have no room to point fingers at those of us who do CONSENSUALLY practice healthy BDSM.
If you gasped in horror that I suggested such a thing, perhaps you all really need to take a harder look at your own stunted sexual practices.
You don't get to determine how consenting adults practice their sexuality. Period. Full stop. Just because it's not YOUR cuppa doesn't mean you get the right to take that cup from someone else. I couldn't care less about how you practice your sexuality, so why should you concern yourself about how I practice mine? Do you really have that much free time on your hands?
Are there abusers and assholes in BDSM? Yes, there are. But there are also assholes and abusers in the vanilla world, too.
The fact that the latest version of the DSM has depathologized BDSM should tell you that your heads are stuck in the past and deep in the sand.
You don't have a right to say how I, or how ANYONE ELSE, practices our sexuality. You don't. If people are consenting adults, let them do what they want to do in the bedroom. Yes, you are being hypocritical. We are at a time now where women get to decide how to express their sexuality. If it's not the way YOU want them to express it, well, I guess it sucks to be you then, doesn't it?
Just the fact that you're couching your post in terms like "patriarchal rape culture" shows your bias and lack of empathy for people who are different than you.
And FYI, I am a woman who, while I identify as a Dominant in nearly all areas of my life, is also a collared slave who switches with the man I'm collared to. Oh, and he's not my husband--we're poly. (Suck on that fact, too, while you're at it.) I am not being "abused." I am not being "harmed." I dare say that I have done more personal recovery, and healed more from my PTSD from a previous relationship, since finding BDSM than I did before. I have empowered myself in ways you apparently aren't even capable of conceiving, based on your biased report.
Instead of making wide-sweeping, ignorant statements based on some extremely UNrealistic examples at best, and horrific and non-representative examples at worse, how about getting to actually, oh, I don't know, MEET and TALK to people who engage in healthy BDSM dynamics, instead of treating us like we have cooties.
(Tymber Dalton is a real-life practitioner of BDSM, and the author of over sixty books. www.tymberdalton.com)
Posted by Tymber Dalton at 12:38 PM 8 comments:
Labels: BDSM, rant, Real People Real BDSM, Tymber Dalton
Friday, May 16, 2014
Consensual non-consent, rape play, and stay the hell out of my bedroom.
You can take my rape fantasy when you non-consensually prise it from my kink dependent mind.
The point being many of us in BDSM ENJOY this kind of play. Speaking to the nay-sayers who think we're "wrong" for enjoying this kind of play: You don't know what our backgrounds or experiences are, so you have no RIGHT to dictate to us, CONSENTING ADULTS, how we express ourselves through our sexuality. You don't get to homogenize us to fit YOUR mold.
Those two words right there mean a full-stop period end to any objections anyone might have. Let's break it down further, shall we?
CONSENT. It means the people (both sides of it) engaging in the play are CONSENTING.
ADULTS. Meaning a human person of legal age and able to give consent to such play.
I'm NOT saying people who don't enjoy this kind of play should do it. Not at all. But for a group of people to scream that it's "wrong" to do it, when consensually enjoying is, for some, a way to RECLAIM and SELF-DEFINE their own sexuality and sexual expression, that's like the people saying it's wrong are victimizing people all over again.
As long as people are CONSENTING ADULTS, no one has a right to shame them into what they should or shouldn't do in terms of their sexuality.
Two words. Two VERY powerful words that many people try to overlook to create wacky, off-the-wall and totally irrelevant arguments against CNC play. Like trying to equate it to pedophiles or bestiality. Um, NO. Again, CONSENTING ADULTS. Kids are neither ADULTS nor CONSENTING. Animals are neither (human) ADULTS nor CONSENTING.
If it's not your kink, GREAT! You don't have to do it! But for those of us in BDSM who enjoy it, don't try to shame us and further victimize us. In a real situation, let's just say I have a concealed carry permit, 'kay? But with Sir, CONSENSUALLY, it's play I enjoy. Why? Because I trust him and I know that if something went south, physically, mentally, or emotionally, all I have to do is safeword and boom, play stops. (That's the CONSENT part.) I'm an ADULT. Sir's an ADULT. We're quite capable of figuring out what we do and don't want to do.
What two consenting adults do between them is NOT any reflection upon ANY experience anyone else has had. It's NOT "victimizing" anyone else. It's NOT a slam to any victim of a crime. It's NOT.
YKINMY. Your Kink Is Not My Kink. Pure and simple. Trying to equate a consensual act between two people with a non-consensual crime is like trying to say that people shouldn't be allowed to drive cars anymore because some asshole hit your car with his. There is no cause-and-effect here. The two are linked in some ways for SOME people, yes. But the private play that people engage in does NOT create acceptance for the non-consensual crime. It doesn't.
Sorry, didn't mean to put on my ranty pants there, but now that they're on, at least I got that out.
(Tymber Dalton is the author of The Reluctant Dom and other books. Her website is http://www.tymberdalton.com)
Posted by Tymber Dalton at 3:09 PM 8 comments:
Labels: BDSM, CNC, consensual non-consent, rape play, therapeutic BDSM, Tymber Dalton
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